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How To Have Good Luck Now by Susan Barnes
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By Susan Barnes
I’ve never given much thought to good luck or bad luck until recently when I was going to the mall on a crowded Saturday with a friend.
The crisp bright day gave me a feeling of happiness because Spring was around the corner. No more ice storms. And that thought became and replaced with another, “There’s nothing more beautiful than than snow on the ground and ice covered trees sparkling in the moonlight.” Mind drifted off for a moment until my friend said, “Just park at the end of the parking lot.” She pointed to a sea of cars far away from the mall.
I looked at her like she was an alien. “Why on Earth would I park so far away?” I asked.
“Because you’re never going to get a good parking space up front.” She said.
Now, the funny thing is, it had never occurred to me I wouldn’t get a parking space up front. I assumed I’d get up close. I drove up and down, row after row of filled spaces.
“See I told you.” She said.
And right as those words left her mouth a car pulled out. I had been parked in one of the closest spaces next to the mall.
My friend looked at me then scratched her head. “That was just lucky.” She said.
“Lucky?” I asked, really curious now about her thought process. “That’s weird because I always get the closest parking space, no matter where I am, even at the grocery store. Now she looked at me like I was the alien.
You see, it has never occurred to me I wouldn’t get the closest parking space or the fastest checkout line or the near misses with car accidents and even an airplane crash where I was the only one to walk away without a scratch. I never really thought about it. My memory went back to the first time I did think about luck. I was about 9 years old at a horse competition with my Grandfather, an ex-jockey and horse trainer.
I came in last in the competition. To say I wasn’t happy is putting it mildly. Also, I felt like I’d let my Grandfather down. When I looked at his face he smiled and told me I was the luckiest girl in the world. I still didn’t see it that way. Losing wasn’t in my DNA.
Furious, I kicked at the dirt outside the arena and proceeded to tell my Grandfather I’d never win because the other girls were bigger and had more experience than me, their horses were more expensive and the judges favored them over me. I grumbled all the way to the stables.
I can remember as clear as a bell seeing my Grandfather smile his warm smile and say, “Susie Bella, there was a time I felt exactly like you’re feeling right now. But then something happened.” His eyes twinkled while we washed off the horse together. I stayed quiet, pouring water over the horse, scrubbing her clean, and buffing up her hooves until there wasn’t a speck of mud on them.
I couldn’t take it anymore. I wanted to know what had happened to turn my Grandfather’s luck around. I bit my tongue and waited until he spoke.
We walked the mare back to her stall, she pranced in, showing off her shiny clean fur and combed out tail. The other horses watched her… jealously. Their riders hadn’t taken the time to to wash them off. In fact, some of them were still sweaty and dusty because they’d been ridden, put back into their stalls and left by the rider, the ones who’d won the ribbons and trophies.
“Has it come to you yet?” He asked.
The frustration bubbled up inside me, I wanted to scream, “WHAT, tell me, how do I become lucky?” But I didn’t. That would’ve shown a lack of respect and a good horserider always showed respect to their teacher.
“Why did he always have to make everything a lesson?” I thought.
We got into the car and I stayed silent. When we drove up to the Dairy Queen we both got out, walking in still in our riding gear, me with my knee high leather boots and him too.
A hefty woman behind the counter rushed over to us as soon as she saw us.
“How’s the lady with the brightest smile in the world doing today?” My Grandfather asked sincerely. To me she didn’t have a smile on her face, she looked tired and like she couldn’t wait to get out of there. But when my Grandfather said those words to her, she changed instantly. She smiled broadly and her smile really did seem to light up the place.
“What’ll it be?” She asked. “The usual?” She asked.
“Yes, ma’m.” My Gandfather answered. In a few minutes, she handed up both chocolate milkshakes with extra whipped cream and two cherries on top, not one cherry but two!
She leaned closer to us and said lowly, “I added an extra scoop of ice cream for ya’ll. You’re the nicest customers I’ve ever had.” I noticed she even had dimples, she was cute when she smiled.
When we got back to the car, I slurped up all the whipped cream and ate the cherries. “That’s the best milkshake in the world.” I announced.
“Now, you’re starting to get it.” He said.
My mind raced, I could feel the wheels of my thoughts churning. I’d almost solved the riddle of how to have good luck. But I hadn’t quite gotten it yet.
“Did you see the lady customer at the ice cream store tapping her fingernails on the counter for the waitress to hurry up?” He asked.
“Yes sir.” I said.
“Did she get a nice big chocolate milkshake with extra whipped cream and two cherries on top?” He asked.
I thought about it and it dawned on me. No, she hadn’t, she got the milkshake they show in the menu. Not the special ones like we got.
“Why do you think we got the best milkshakes in the whole wide world?” He asked.
Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. “Because, we have good luck Grandpa!” I said excitedly feeling some of my pride rush back.
“Well yeah. But it’s more than that. You see, I learned the secret to the mystery of good luck a long time ago. Luck is like a car, or a horse, or a person. The better you treat it, the better it treats you.”
“Huh?” I asked, confused again.
“When you treat good luck with respect, and you take good care of it, it wants to be around you.”
“That was one of those defining moments you have in your life. A moment you can learn from or one you can toss aside.”
“At the same time, you can’t abuse luck, cause it can be like the wind and blow far, far away.”
Now, as an adult, I can see where I’ve been lucky and where I haven’t. And it all goes back to that day with my Grandfather.
My friends don’t understand it, they say I was born under a lucky star. You and I know the truth don’t we?
Sometimes I go with friends to a casino, and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that no matter how hard I try, I can’t lose. The last time I played poker, the odds against me were 100 to one and I still won. Because of my spiritual beliefs, I don’t abuse good luck at the casino.
You can go to any casino or bar and watch the faces of the “losers”, they’re the ones complaining that it’s the machine’s fault or the table is cold or a million other reasons why they aren’t winning. The answer is in their faces, they are projecting their beliefs about losing onto something other than themselves, in doing so, they’re disrespecting luck. And like a lady, luck doesn’t like to be disrespected.
I’ve come to realize luck is an energy. We’re all energy. What you think and say goes back to you.
Here are some easy tips to having good luck:
1. The power of your life is in your words. What are you saying to yourself and to others? Say, “I’m the luckiest person in the world, I’m blessed, I’m loved.” Say it, even if you don’t believe it, say it until you do believe it.
2. Take care of yourself, your things, your thoughts, the people in your life and others. Be generous to others, tithe, volunteer. Be grateful.
3. Be careful who you give your trust to. If it’s to someone who doesn’t care about herself or himself, that could come back to haunt you and hurt the good reputation you’ve worked hard for. Look at how someone conducts all aspects of their life before giving any energy to them. They could have spiritual cooties that rub off on you.
4. You become like who you hang out with. Sometimes you have to be the one to cut the energy cord or they can drain your good energy. This includes manipulators, substance abusers, excuse addicts, and co-dependants. Move on. Its time to evolve.
5. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. Smile, be friendly, say something kind. Lady Luck likes having the brightest smile in the world and she likes being appreciated for it.
6. Take responsibility for the times when you attracted bad luck. No excuses, it all boils down to you.
7. Do what you say you’re going to do. Stop procrastinating and stop making promises you won’t keep.
Do these things and you’ll see good luck is about evolving your consciousness. When you stop wanting good luck and needing it to come to you, it suddenly will. Smile at good fortune and it will smile upon you. I’ve avoided car accidents by the skin of my teeth, walked away from an airplane crash with not one scratch and am given things all the time. Good Luck is your belief system. I believe I’m the luckiest girl in the world and I appreciate it, respect it and take care of it. Say that over and over until you truly believe it and you will experience it.
Copyright @ 2010 by Susan Barnes. All rights Reserved.
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The Excuse Machine by Susan Barnes
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By Susan Barnes
Every day you are faced with options that could change your life. Some options, or opportunities appear to be as small as a seedling while others seem to be as grand as a Mountain.
You sift through your programming, beliefs and projections then react. Or you do nothing. What you do or not do depends on your habitual patterns. These patterns are set in place by your unconscious mind at various stages of your development.
You sometimes have the same excuses you’ve grown comfortable with and at other times you think of new excuses. When examined objectively you can see that the “new excuse” really has the same essence as all of your other excuses. It’s their fault, not yours, is a common theme.
What an excuse when examined is fear. You want to date that certain person but you have a fear that you’ll be rejected, so you think of an excuse to not approach the person of interest. You want to become more intimate with your partner and yet because of fear you think of all kinds of excuses to avoid commitment.
Or how about that job you secretly want? Are you staying in a job you aren’t happy with because you’ve sold yourself excuse after excuse as to why you can’t leave and go after the job you really want?
The best person I know of who can break any excuses you may keep hanging onto is, Owen Fitzpatrick, who can be reached at, http://www.owenfitzpatrick.com. Owen helped me get rid of a lot of my excuses in a very short amount of time. You can find out more about Owen at the end of the article.
Let’s take a look at an excuse and deconstruct it.
For years I wanted to write a book, and had loads of excuses as to why I couldn’t. I had excuse after excuse, I didn’t have the time, my grammar wasn’t up to par, I wanted to write the “perfect” book.
First of all it doesn’t matter if the grammar is perfect or not, hire an editor or go to the local college and hire an English Major. Next, the “No time” excuse. When do you not have time to do what you really want to do? I had time to go to the movies, I had time to have pizza with friends, I had time to do Facebook. And that’s when it hit me, I was heaping excuse after excuse onto the purpose of my soul which was to write and to help others. As far as writing the “perfect book”, is there such a thing? My new belief is that everything is perfect. Everyone is perfect just the way they are.
I now write for the invisible audience in my head. But before I write, I choose a target audience and write for them. I visualize them reading it. I pretend there is someone reading my work who absolutely loves it. I see the readers’ face light up as they read the words on the pages. I get out of my world and jump into theirs.
The 3 Keys to stop the Excuse Machine are:
1. Look at the reality of the situation, not what you’ve blown it out of proportion to be. If you ask that person out and they say “no.” Is your world going to end? Of course not! There are over 6 billion people on the planet, go and ask another person out and keep doing so until you find someone. Be present in the moment you speak to that person, let them feel you’re centered and masculine if you’re a man, if you’re a woman let that person feel your femininity pouring out of your open heart.
2. Time? Time isn’t an issue because time doesn’t exist, it’s all in your mind. You and I make up time, we can make it slow down or speed up. I wrote two and a half books in one weekend. So, you can do anything you set your mind to do, anything.
3. Perfection: Perfection is what you make of it.You can say a certain situation is bad or good. If someone you fancy doesn’t fancy you, you can make up excuses to not give the other millions of people in the world a chance or you can say, “Thank-God it didn’t work out, I now know who not to be with, NEXT!” Because the truth is, there are many people who fancy you, who want you more than they’ve ever wanted anyone, you’re just making up so many excuses you can’t see them.
If you want to make a personal change in your life, stop making excuses now.
I’d like to thank Owen Fitzpatrick of Ireland, known as the best NLP practitioner in Europe and the UK, for the idea of this article. I told him I wanted to write but haven’t because I couldn’t think of what to write about. Owen said, “Why don’t you write about excuses?” Owen is a Master NLP Trainer, Speaker, Therapist, Communications Consultant, author of “Not Enough Hours”, an Irish Bestseller and co-author with Dr. Richard Bandler of “Conversations: Freedom is everything and love is all the rest.” You can reach Owen for a consultation at, http://www.owenfitzpatrick.com.
Susan Barnes is a success coach, author of 8 books, and an international speaker about success and charisma. Susan has appeared on numerous radio and tv shows including, The Rachael Ray show. Susan has been featured on Playboy Sirius radio as a guest relationship advice expert. She can be personally reached via her website at Contact Susan.
Copyright @ 2010 by Susan Barnes. All rights Reserved.
How To Be Nonattached With Love by Susan Barnes
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By Susan Barnes
“A happy life begins with tranquility of mind.” ~ Cicero
One of the most important elements for Intuition is to be nonattached to an outcome. All of us begin life with one pervading question, “Who am I?” This question is asked over and over by our subconscious mind and carries over into our conscious life.
Anytime a question is asked, our unconscious mind searches for an answer and brings it to our conscious awareness through our actions and thoughts. Along with the basic question of “Who am I?” we also ask other questions that affect the kind of people and situations we attract into our life.
The question I used to ask myself was, “What’s the end game?” Because of this question, I became attached to the outcome of any situation whether it pertained to business or to personal relationships. As a result, the word, game brought out the competitiveness in me and in my mind I had to “win” at everything I did.
This question served me well in work yet it cost me dearly in relationships and creativity. After much soul searching through books, seminars, healing, and meditation, a new question bubbled up which was, “How can I tap into the creative energy of love?”
My life turned on a dime. The first thing to happen was my attachment to how I thought a project’s outcome should go left my awareness and the need to dominate business situations turned into a need for a win-win, I wanted what was right for the other party as well as myself. I began to tell the truth even though my conditioning was that if I told the complete truth in business I would lose money, the opposite is true, the more truthful I became the more abundance I attracted.
Writing flowed for me the way a boat sails down a stream. Books and articles were completed with their natural ending rather than a forced ending.
A byproduct of attachment is control. I knew a woman who said she practiced nonattachment with ease. When I asked her how she did this, she said that when someone angered or upset her she went “cold” and then she would drop them without letting them know why. That isn’t nonattachment, that is attachment to control.
When we’re attached to control, we can’t hear the whisperings of our soul.
Here’s a beautiful story by Richard Bach illustrating nonattachment.
“There is a colony of creatures living under rocks at the bottom of a raging river. One day, one of these creatures decided to stop clinging on to the rocks. He released himself, surrendering to the flow of the current. At first, the creature tumbled about and smashed into the rocks and weeds of the river. But, instead of returning to a clinging life, he continued his journey. Soon he learned the way of the river and his trip became fast and enlightening. Weeks later, he passed another group of creatures clinging to the rocks in the same way that he had before. One of the creatures saw him coming and screamed to his peers, “Behold the Messiah has arrived.”
As we begin the new year, let’s go over what we’re attached to that no longer serves our higher needs. Write the answers to these questions on a piece of paper.
1. What people are in your life who are draining your energy?
2. What things are no longer necessary?
3. Does guilt hook you?
4. What emotions are you attached to that hinder your growth? Anger? Depression?
5. Let your intution guide you in asking the right questions. Let your higher self speak to you. Open your heart, listen to your soul. What are you hooked on that you need to let go of? Write it all down.
Picture yourself holding a kite, imagine what it is you are attached to, imagine it as a photograph. Place this photo of your attachment on the front of the kite, feel a spring breeze blow across your face, close your eyes, take a deep breath, exhale, let go of the kite with love.
Practice nonattachment with love. For a long time I had great difficulty with nonattachment. Like the creature in the Bach story, I clung desperately to the riverbank, which took on different forms such as dysfunctional relationships, bad habits, wanting to be the center of attention and expectations of things working out the way my ego wanted them to.
The moment I let go of these attachments, a funny thing happened. I wrote five books in the course of a year, people I clung to left my life anyway and upon their departure, other people entered my life, people who brought joy and happiness. Opportunities opened up like never before.
When you let go, your energy pattern shifts and your vibrations resonate at a higher level. When your energy shifts, you attract people and situations of like energetic patterns.
Copyright @ 2010 by Susan Barnes. All rights Reserved.
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A Smile Is All You Need by Susan Barnes
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By Susan Barnes
There are seven ways to attract love and stay within your budget.
And they are easy to do!
1. Smile! A smile disarms others and creates immediate rapport. Even if you aren’t feeling it on a particular day, do it anyway. If you aren’t happy, pretend to be! You’ll actually begin to feel happier when you smile. The added benefit is, it costs nothing and the sexiest thing to a man is a happy woman. Both women and men like people they feel they can make happy, if you have a warm smile on your face you’ll move mountains without the bill.
2. Stop all Unlovable Behaviors: No one like a crude woman or man. Leave the gutter talk in the gutter, and curb those unhealthy instincts like smoking and drinking. They’ll just leave you in a low vibratory state. When your energy is low, you’ll attract others with low energy. Who needs that? With a drink costing $7 to $8 or more in a bar you can soon go into debt with nothing to show for it except embarrassment and an expensive hangover. Think of what you can do with the money you’ll save if you stop buying alcohol and cigarettes? You can open up a savings account with all that extra cash! With more money in the bank from saving you’ll feel better about yourself and when you feel better about yourself you attract all kinds of great people!
3. No Whining! No matter what happens, your ex left you for the masseuse, you’re in a divorce battle of the century, you got laid off from work, no matter what, do not whine about it! I know it’s hard but keep the negative comments to yourself. If you need to complain, buy a notebook and write down your gripes instead of talking about them to others. When you go back and look at all the stuff you wrote down chances are you’ll be shocked at how low you could go. Pull yourself up and remember, we’re all in this together. When you look on the bright side, things will perk up and you will attract a perky mate. Nobody wants to be around a Debbie or a Don Downer.
4. Choose to be with Lovable People: Being around negative people can drag anyone down. Find new people, join a club, go to the local chamber of commerce to find clubs and dive in! Your goal is to meet at least 5 new people a week. And find happy people the ones who are laughing, smiling and having a good time in spite of the economic conditions. If you have friends who bitch and moan all the time, distance yourself from them now. Go bowling, go to a table tennis club, do anything to make new positive friends.
5. Trust in Love: Nobody can resist the power of love. Love costs nothing yet gives everything. If you believe in an expensive deep love, you become a magnet for just that. If you haven’t gotten faith in love it won’t have faith in you. I spoke to a woman who told me she had a “love/hate” relationship with love. Of course she wasn’t in a relationship, she said she wanted one but her actions said otherwise. And she complained constantly while speaking bitterly about men. There is no way this woman can attract a loving committed relationship until she begins to trust in love. We’ve all been hurt, all of us, nobody is immune to the pain of a break up. The key is to realize that if you had love once, you will again, and the next time it will be even better. Because we learn from our mistakes, in order to grow we have to make errors. That’s the beauty of being alive, embrace your mistakes, learn from them and let trust fill your wounds. Focus on loving others in your life and loving you, when you do that, love can’t resist you!
Copyright @ 2010 by Susan Barnes. All rights Reserved.
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How To Have Outrageous Confidence by Susan Barnes
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In this article, Susan provides advice to gain confidence in yourself and live a happy life.
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